{"id":45,"date":"2023-11-08T16:28:46","date_gmt":"2023-11-08T16:28:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/maresmusings.uk\/?p=45"},"modified":"2023-11-23T21:18:08","modified_gmt":"2023-11-23T21:18:08","slug":"thank-you-for-that","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/maresmusings.uk\/?p=45","title":{"rendered":"Thank you for That!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

You will never please all the people, all of the time. I had to learn this very early on in my teaching career and it became even more obvious when I became head!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A child should be the centre of their parents\u2019 world and as such they want the best for them. This can also mean they have a false picture of their child\u2019s capabilities. These things can mean that parents and school do not see eye to eye over the best direction for their child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It often starts with reading books. \u2018The school books are too easy, he\u2019s reading Harry Potter at home!\u2019 My reply was always \u2018That\u2019s great, you keep on with that at home, but we need to see evidence that he can decode words using his phonics.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then it moves on to discussions about behaviour \u2013 \u2018he never behaves like that at home \u2013 it must be the influence of other children\u2019 or \u2018his behaviour at home has deteriorated, he must be learning these things at school\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is often no understanding that their child might be winding the other children up or that perhaps they are exhibiting this behaviour as a means to get attention. I would impress upon parents that it is essential that they keep the school informed about any changes at home, so that we could support the child. After a conversation with a parent about why their child had started to behave so erratically \u2013 has anything changed? No, oh father and I have split up, but they seem fine with that. No child is \u2018fine with that\u2019 but they might not want to show any emotions at home. It certainly does explain their behaviour in school.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unfortunately, everyone has an opinion on how schools should be run and how children should be treated, because everyone has been to school, albeit a long time ago! And it is very hard to be objective when it is your child who is being discussed. But not all parents are blinkered. We mustn\u2019t forget that many parents are realistic and will see faults in their own child, so we have to balance these parents with those who see no faults at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is extremely frustrating that parents appear to have no filter. They can say what they like to school staff and that is deemed acceptable. School staff have no freedom like that. When told \u2018this school has gone right down hill since you took over\u2019 I just had to remain calm and replied with \u2018thank you for that.\u2019 When I was referred to \u2018as that ghastly headteacher\u2019 once again it \u2018thank you for that\u2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Of course, there are the wonderful parents who are so grateful for everything you do for their child. They will support everything the school arranges. They will follow all the advice they are given and are committed to the ethos and vision of the school. For some of these parents, they have had to come to terms with their child\u2019s special educational needs. For some, it is only when their child starts school that they realise the extent of their needs and the school has to help and support them through this extremely difficult time. Some want this support, others don\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am sure that all most parents want is to feel that you like their child, that you know them and can identify their needs. They entrust us with their most precious possession for over 6 hours a day and they want the best for their child. All we have to do is provide it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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